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Dec 18, 2013 •

It’s weird not going home for the whole holiday.

And to be quite honest, I haven’t really felt like Deepwell has truly been my home in maybe the last year or so.

I know, before you start yelling at me, take a listen: it’s that I don’t feel like I deserve it. The timing was sort of terrible, you know? Here I am, just some ordinary kid (my theory is that I am a kid until at LEAST 30), feeling the borders of my town closing around me like a big hug or some similar metaphor, and then Ruby comes along and questions that.

At that age, I guess, it was stereotypically time for ME to to question things. Mostly, I was irritated at Ruby, and then I began to see what she meant. And then I left to go to college, and I found out how much I liked words (essays were the WORST for me in high school), and how much I liked the world getting bigger, and suddenly no borders could hold me. Deepwell was a place where life continued to happen, but it was all stuff I thought I had already figured out. I had new people to get to know, to get to care about in my own way in all of my classes, in every roller derby in the hallway outside my dorm room.

You wonder sometimes why it’s hard to get younger people into caring? Well, I’ll tell you one reason: their worlds open up, and suddenly, there is so much new stuff, there is so much to do! Slowing down and returning home feels impossible, sometimes backwards. It takes a great effort for me to maintain a grip on all of the pieces of me that are scattered at home and all over Deepwell and in the dorms at school, and each lecture hall on campus. Because I am healthy, my brain often tricks me into feeling invincible. It’s in all the coming of age stories. It’s one of the first things they teach you – the nasty downside of The Hero’s Journey.

And now, I am heading to Ithaca.

Why Ithaca?

I was actually home for the weekend recently for an engagement party for my sis when I ran into Kerrek at the library. He was on the computer getting his internet time in, like he always does, and he had maps up on the screen of New York State. He was pointing and smiling, and said that there was a ‘an old Deepwell of the future’ there.

Intrigued, I grabbed the terminal next to his, and did my own search.


The HOURS of Ithaca.

Part of me wants to go just because I can’t believe it. How can a town thrive on what essentially amounts to paying for your groceries with Monopoly Money? Part of me wants to feel inspired by it – maybe I can find a piece of my own Deepwell in a new place, and then I will feel less guilty about coming home from now on.

Plus, uhhhhhhhhhhhhh, there may or may not be a cute girl who lives in Rochester who’s in my Math recitation on Tuesdays.

Look, I wasn’t kidding about the world opening up, OK? I’m multi-tasking, here!

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You're all part of the pattern

You're all part of the pattern

Nov 11, 2013 • Some truly inspiring and heartfelt things have been written by people helping us with Ruby’s Bequest.  We wanted to continue to honor and highlight the best of the best, so we are proud to bring you Quotable II!  It features our favorite quotes from stories by all of you, so go check it out!

In addition, Flemby has made an amazing quilt that is a true visual representation of how connected we have all become through Ruby’s Bequest.  It’s a big quilt… too big for this blog, so go take a look at the whole quilt!

But we are not done yet!  The Caring Index still has a long way to go!  Help us get there by posting your comments here on the blog or sharing your stories and advice at RubysBequest.org!

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August 12, 2012 • So the bad news is that my caregiver didn’t work out in the long term.  Things have been right rough on me and my mom.  She’s been out of a job for a while now taking care of me again.  But I realized that since she’s home taking care of me she could take care of others as well while their families are at work.  My mom wasn’t too keen on the idea at first, but once she warmed up to it and the word got out we’ve had more people wanting into our “program” than we can handle!

And that’s the great news!  It looks like my mom can actually support us being a caregiver while still taking care of me.  And its been a big help to some of our fellow Deepwellians as well! I’ve had some company at the house this way as well!

People drop off their loved ones on their way to work and my mom helps them with their meds and their meals during the day.  We are calling it “The Silver Care Center”. If this keeps up we are going to need a bigger place!

Also does anyone know anything about licensing for this kinda thing?  It seems that with the attention we are attracting we are going to need that soon!

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December 1, 2011 • As you probably already know, I’ve been trying to get some of the young kids in Deepwell more involved. I figure, us adults can change all we want, but if we don’t involve our children in all of this, we’ll be back to a DCI of 0 once the next generation grows up.

First off, I’m happy to say that we’ve successfully restarted the schools’ food drives! Restarted, you say? Yep. It turns out that the elementary schools here used to do a food drive, but somehow it fell by the wayside. As best as the Mrs. Blakely can remember (she’s been at the school the longest), the food drive was cancelled fifteen or so years back when the big elementary school was closed after the kitchen fire. For one reason or another, it never got started back up again the next year.

Mrs. Blakely and a bunch of the other teachers got together to remember, as best they could, all of the past activities like the food drive that had been abandoned or forgotten about over the years. For a couple years, they had a penny collection drive every September. Once enough money was collected, the kids voted on a charity to donate it to. The drive got delayed and then cancelled after 9/11. It was never started up again.

So this has gotten us thinking about a couple of things. Is Deepwell really the town that doesn’t care right? And has it always been? Or have we just forgotten how to care right? Has the hustle and bustle of modern life gotten in the way of our caring? Well, we intend to jog everyone’s memories!

Many of the teachers are dedicated to getting school children involved in caring projects that will improve our DCI. So we are officially announcing our Deepwell Kids Care program, which was inspired by klinds1! The schools and the newspaper are joining forces to make the program a reality. We’re going to start with a few simple projects like the food drive I mentioned above. Once the kids get into the caring groove, we’re planning some more challenging tasks for them to accomplish that will require more work outside of the classroom. Each project will have a feature article written about it in the newspaper.

So what we really need right now are some fantastic ideas for caring projects for the kids. If you have any, please post them here or over at the Ruby’s Bequest site.

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October 30, 2011 • Finally! Lots of good news to share about both Deepwell and myself! Indexes, birthdays, caregivers! Oh my!

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You said it

You said it

July 17, 2011 • We’ve been collecting the things that people have said to us and quoting them to each other, and here with Han’s help I have actually put a number of them down on virtual paper. You can find a bunch of these short quotes on the blog page called Quotable. Take a look and click around!

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Caring Sundae: dig in

Caring Sundae: dig in

May 8, 2011 • Well, something extraordinary has happened. Two remarkable things. And I feel we have Jorge to thank for it. Here’s the story:

As you may know, some people in Deepwell formed PODcare and we have been discussing what to do to stop our plunging DCI (Deepwell Caring Index). And I think it’s fair to say that there was a lot of talk but relatively little consensus on what to do.

Enter Jorge, who is one of those guys who doesn’t talk much, preferring to listen for a while and then do something. What he heard was some of us talking about holding a day when everyone who gives or (especially) receives care all come together for an ice cream social or something.

A bunch of people planted the seed for this in their stories – like this one from Tresbien and this one from H2Ohexagon and this one from Andrhia and this one from ptotah and especially this one from Jennifer and this one from Charles W. and this one from coma and so on. But we weren’t sure how exactly to put it together, how to find people, how to pay for it, etc.

Jorge wasn’t sure either, but that didn’t stop him or even slow him down. Hannah and some of Jorge’s other friends helped out. So the Caring Sundae took place on a Saturday actually, May 7, 2011, in the Elks Lodge.

Now from one point of view it didn’t go off so well. Not that many people came and in particular not that many non-disabled, non-caregiving people came. So there was kind of a “preaching to the choir” feel to it. And it was kind of awkward at times, I guess you would say. Some people just flitted in and out.

But here are the two remarkable things:

1) Everyone wants us to hold another one. And I do mean everybody. People I scarcely know have come up to me to make sure they get invited next time. (As if I had anything to do with it!) They press their phone numbers into my hand. This is not normal Deepwell behavior, folks!

2) Jorge had his checks returned. The hall rental, the ice cream, both musical groups, everything. All the bills were preemptively paid – by the estate of Ruby Wood.

Photo by hikikomorix via Flickr.

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