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October 30, 2011 • Something unusual happened to me the other day, and I’m a little worked up about it. I’m not sure whether I’m upset or angry or confused or exactly what I am, but it’s something that you all probably need to know about. And that’s another reason I’m upset, because I did not want to come out in the open about this, because it was just my little thing. Okay, I’m sorry, I’m babbling a little bit. I’ll go back to the beginning.

As you know, I’ve been caring for my aunt, Ida May, since her fall about a year ago. She has Alzheimer’s disease, and her decline has been rapid. I’ve been going to the PODCare meetings when I can get away, but you know, it’s a lot of time for me to find someone to sit with Ida May and honestly I feel like we just sit around and have a lot of talky talky and not enough “do.”

So I’ve been doing a little investigating of my own, thanks to sweet Kerrek, and finding out who is in a similar situation as me – at home, taking care of a loved one. Maybe feeling a little trapped, a little isolated. I was doing this to try to get out of my own head for a little while, because it’s been in a dark and lonely place. And I have been sending these people little things. Some fruit from the garden, or some cookies if I have time. All anonymously. So if you’ve been the recipient of my porch dropoffs, now you know who’s behind them. I really did not want to come out like this, except for what happened at the bakery. (more…)

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Kiss The Angel Jan 3, 2011 • People have quizzed us about the services we have in Deepwell – do we have Paratransit and Meals On Wheels and hospices and suchlike. The answer generally is yes. We’re very average in that regard.

We’re not going to get to Ruby’s goal of a Deepwell Caring Index of 300 by implementing common measures. We’re going to need some extraordinary measures. We need to look at programs that are really cutting-edge in some way, and ideas that have never yet been tried.

How do I know this? – oh, a WiddleBird told me. I won’t say more than that!

The other thing is, we are not going to get to a DCI of 300 by adding services alone. We have to change our way of thinking. WiddleBird didnt whisper this in my ear – she didnt need to. All of us in PODcare learned this from the people out there telling us stories like this one and this one and this one.   (more…)

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May 17, 2010 • Everybdy seems to needsomehtings so how we going the get it, will or no will.

‘No fair wishing wising for a time maching or a miracle cure.

(1) Raven wanted help with paperwork. Dmrzxopo (or whatever) had suggestion what the city could do. (2) Sally needs an elevator. I’ll check for sprae parts at the scrap yard and Porter’s Hardware when I’am there tomoroow. (3) Inned a new recippe but all I got was web sites with a lot of questions.  Hell, it ‘s all I all I can do to remember my one password. I don’t know the seniors d it. (3) Deepwellgirl needs rides. (4) Top needs me to tell his parents but i just cean’t find them. (5) 2 teen smoking behind the 7-11 need a way of have shool be meaingful and the rug rats playing kick-t’-can across the tracks need someting after schoo;.

So what does your family need and how is we gonna pay for it.

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Mar 16, 2010 • I think we are beginning to see how this might work: Ruby’s last will and testament will dole out money to us from time to time so that we can fund some ideas about caring. But not a lot of money anymore (Ruby’s investments have been hit just like everyone else’s). And it’s not like the money comes to us and we get to decide what to do with it. We have to decide first and come up with some concrete ideas and then maybe they get funded.

The lawyer is making some kind of measurement that she is calling the “Deepwell Caring Index.” What is this exactly? No idea.

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Mar 9, 2010 •
“What are your hopes, fears; what challenges here and to come for the future of caring in your town? Raise up a thousand voices.”

So, the first part of Ruby’s Will was opened and I had to transcribe it, such as it is, so that I can process it better. Unfortunately, there isn’t much to process. It’s a question and a command with no indication of reward or consequence. I don’t know about anyone else, but I am feeling a little pushed around here. I agree with Etta that it sounds like we have to get at least a thousand people to help us out. Ruby seems quite the taskmaster and not knowing who she is (I sure hope Missy and you other brainiacs can figure that one out) does not set well with me. Is it our town that does not care right or did Ruby Wood just throw a dart at a map and it hit Deepwell? I wonder. Incidentally, our sideboard is made of ruby wood, but it hasn’t placed any weird demands upon me or anyone else, so far as I know.

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Here’s the answering machine message from Ashleye Blackbourne, the lawyer. This is not anywhere near what I expected on sooo many levels.

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1000 voices = lollipop?

The call came in verrrry early this morning. Keith played it for me right into the phone. It is the oddest dern thing, that’s for sure. Ruby asks “what are your hopes, your fears?” about caring. And then she says that we are to “raise up a thousand voices” about it.

Now the way I understand that, “a thousand voices” just means “many,” right? But sounds like the lawyer is saying “1000” as in, we have to collect 1000 stories from people. No lollipop if we only get 999.

So if you’re reading this, come help us out. What are your hopes, your fears about the future of caring where you live, in your life?

Photo by the half-blood prince, via Flickr.

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